So you landed here, I think it means you’re wondering a few things… like who are you, why should I care what you think, and what the hell is ego no go?
These are all valid questions but you don’t need to be that aggressive. Let me take them one at a time if that’s alright.
Who are you?
My name is Justin Gargiulo. I’m a 30 something entrepreneur who took on a shit ton of risk while being a sole provider for my family. I lived with fear everyday. I got comfortable being uncomfortable and things started to slip away from me.
I began to let go of things I enjoyed, and quietly started to build resentment to the people in my life. I had 0 self-awareness so I had no idea any of this was happening. I saw myself on screen in a bad Vince Vaughn movie on a flight home from Denver and I started to see things differently.
Why should I care what you think?
First of all, you come off like a dick when you ask that way. Well, I talk to people, sometimes. Mostly men, in similar circumstances as me, 30’s – 40’s, wife, kids, demanding job, bills to pay. This may come as a surprise to you but very few men in this category are happy.
Most men my age have consciously deferred happiness to some point in the future. The problem is, as we push happiness to the future, we’re not preparing ourselves physically or mentally to actually be happy when the time finally arrives. Oh, hello there, mid-life crisis!
I was that way too, then I stopped buying it. I think you should stop buying it too.
What the hell is Ego No Go?
So we all have this voice in our head. I don’t mean a voice that someone suffering from Schizophrenia would hear. It’s the voice that floods you with ideas, demands, insults, envy, excuses, judgements, blah, blah, blah. It’s your thoughts.
Ego No Go is a blog about my progress in creating space between me, and my thoughts. It’s a conversation about how things like mindfulness can reduce stress in our lives and improve our relationships.
As much as I’d like to be inclusive, the content is written for men. It’s sharing a story about how I realized that my role as a provider didn’t need to be as hard as I was making it. It’s not that supporting a family of four will ever be easy, but it became much less difficult when I changed my perspective, and stopped listening to the voice.
Ego No Go is not intended to be a sermon on the mount. If I ever get too preachy please call me on it in the comments. My interest is in sharing my experience, with the hope it will help you begin to see your place as a middle-ageish dude on this planet in a different way.
Now start reading all my shit.
Oh, here’s boring background on the other me (written in the third person so you think I am important)
Justin Gargiulo is the Founder and CEO of VoterTrove, an award winning data management platform currently utilized by candidate campaigns and advocacy organizations. Justin is a well-respected, veteran expert in voter data and field operations and has become a frequent speaker on the current and future state of political campaign technology.
In November of 2013, VoterTrove was invited to join the startup incubator program at Capital Factory in Austin, TX. Recognized as the center of gravity for technology startups in Austin, Capital Factory is one of the most renowned incubators in the country.
In 2014 VoterTrove & Gargiulo have been honored with two of the most prestigious awards in the political industry: Campaigns and Elections Magazine’s Reed Award for Best Use of Application Software and the Excellence Award for Best New Technology from the American Association of Political Consultants.
Gargiulo was named to Campaigns and Elections Magazine’s “Influencers 50” List in 2014. The list is comprised of 50 campaign strategists and technologists who, according to Campaigns and Elections, are “changing the way we think about campaigns and shaping the future of the industry”.
Prior to founding VoterTrove, Justin’s career was steeped in data analytics and digital media, overseeing the digital media efforts for the members of the Connecticut State Senate Caucus from 2002 – 2010.